Becoming a Professional Mentor for Young Adults

So many Boomers and Gen x-er’s are searching for meaning in their work life. Becoming a professional Mentor for young adults is a great way to do that and also really help this amazing Millennial generation reach their potential. I believe that these young adults have what it takes to change this world for the better in every way. It is our generation who have let them down and then accused them of being self-centered, slackers who sleep and slave away on their superciliously synced smart phones. (I’m in an “s” mood today ☺)

But with all good things there is yang to the yin, the blessing and the curses (B’s and C’s) that one could never have imagined when starting upon this journey. Having Mentored Millennials for over 16 years, I thought I would share my experiences on the B’s and C’s of this work… but first….
Here are some thoughts from one of my newest Mentors In Training, Sean, about what he was seeking.

Hey Ken! I really am looking for a change in my life. Call it turning 50. Call it a mid-life crisis. Call it being fed up with not feeling like I do something worthwhile for human-kind. Hell, call it a person being fed up with their corporate job.
I want to feel like I make a difference. Like I’ve helped someone. Leave a mark … even if it’s only in a small way.
All this being said … I still have four mouths to feed, a mortgage, car payment and three kids to hopefully put through university. And currently I make a good living doing what I do (even if it is from behind a cubicle wall) So making a change is scary. Naturally.
No doubt you are a charismatic, well-spoken, polished individual that seemingly loves what he does and teaches. Can I take some of what you have and make it work for me?

The answer: Yes! The people who have become professional Mentors were able to take what they were taught and make it their own. They do it part-time in the first year after training so they can slowly transition into a successful mentoring practice to either augment their current income or create a full time Mentoring career.

The B’s and C’s of Becoming a Mentor.

Top 5 blessings of being a mentor for young adults:

5. It’s all done on Skype, so your pits and mouth can be stinky and you’ll still seem like you know what you are talking about. (but take pity on your dog’s olfactory receptors)
4. No traffic jams! No travel time to work! Just get your computer on, fire up Skype and Robert’s your father’s brother.
3. Imagine! Millennials sharing their thoughts; completely and totally honestly, thanks to the judgment-free environment you create.
2. You learn the coolest things about what’s happening in the connected world; people; songs; apps. Hey, I heard “Badger, badger, badger, badger” way before my any of my friends did… if they ever did.
1. After being with you as their Mentor for six to eighteen months, they graduate and know how to deal with anything life will throw at them with grace, wisdom and unflinching eyes on the prize.

Top 5 Curses of Being a Mentor for Young Adults:

5. Being on Skype all the time, with no clients to sneeze or pass gas in your general direction, you are more susceptible to the various colds and flus when you do venture out. (Who knew those kids sneezing
on the teacher in class were doing them a favor?)
4. The internet service providers of the world seem to have it out for Skypers. It can be frustrating sometimes… frozen images… missed words occurring most often when you absolutely need to hear every word your client is sharing.
3. Imagine! Millennials sharing their thoughts; completely and totally honestly, thanks to the judgment-free environment you create. (This is a blessing and a curse.)
2. Try explaining Badger to your “grown-up” friends or why (name of funky group) really is cool. (sigh… caught between two generations).
1. After being with you for six to eighteen months, they graduate. You are sort of Mary Poppins for f**ked up kids. You heard them. They listened and then they must leave the Skype-nest. It is a sad time and a happy time.

This is what I live for in every hour that I mentor young adults and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. It is such an honor to earn their trust and help guide them to their inner greatness. Helping the families go from major daily scream-fests to the truly loving relationships they were meant to have is simply icing on the cake.

So surrender to your special skills of sharing the secrets of success to Millennials and start your sojourn from a snooze-fest existence to inspiring slackers.

Join us!
Learn to Mentor Millennials.

They are our greatest hope.
We need them.
They need you.

Interested in mentoring Millennials? Check out www.MentorsProfessionalWorkshop.com

Know a Millennial in need of mentoring? Check out www.MentoringYoungAdults.com

The Mentor’s Workbook – Mentoring Young Adults: Introduction Part 1

Hello. My name is Ken Rabow. I am the Mentor’s Mentor for Troubled Teens, Young Adults and their Families. My goal is to train people who love mentoring young adults and give them the tools to become a Professional Mentor.

What’s the difference? It takes a special person to Mentor Troubled Teens and Young Adults but it takes a system to create a whole life approach to helping young adults and their families truly succeed on all levels: 
Scholastically, Relationally, Emotionally and with a true belief in oneself.

This is what the World Wide Youth Mentoring (WWYM) Inc system does.
This is the system I have created over the past 25 years.

I have worked with countless young people who have made great changes for the better in their lives. Changes where they were responsible for the successful outcome. These successes are now part of who they are and how the see themselves and shall help guide them in whatever endeavors they take on in life.

The goal of this Workbook is to help you become such a mentor to young adults.

If you follow this process (in tandem with my book: The Slacker’s Guide To Success) you will find yourself helping young people to find their personal greatness. I cannot think of a nobler task or one that I consider to be more honorable to be part of.

Most systems of “repairing young adults” that I encounter seem to be focused on the symptoms. They use their challenges to define the whole of the person. Statements such as: “I’m ADHD”. Hello, my name is Skeeter and I’m an alcoholic.” “I’m such a (fill in the blank)” ring throughout the land.

To those who spend so much time on their symptoms, I would suggest you think of the following: We amplify what we focus on, in word, thought and action. The more frequently we are defining ourselves by what we lack, the more we allow our inner thoughts to validate our beliefs in our million micro-decisions of the day.

We cannot underestimate the amount of people who are in denial about their personal foibles. I am not suggesting self-delusion as a the road to success. I encourage you to (and by extension the young adults you mentor) to “own” their challenges as well as their strengths, but please do not let these young adults be defined by their challenges.

Let me share with you my belief, my mindset and my intention for mentoring based on my Mentoring of Young Adults since 2001:

Every young person I have ever met has the ability to be successful in every way of their lives. That may seem like a bold statement but the truth is, evolutionarily speaking, if you are alive, then you are doing something right. You must also come from a line of people who were able to thrive. The DNA of success is built into you. It just may present itself in a way that doesn’t fit into a standard mold. What may seem like the opposite of success may simply be indicators to look for a different way, to find your own personal way to succeed.

The Slacker’s Guide to Success is once such way. It works by building up a person’s belief in themselves in quiet daily tasks that help build character. It is in the small daily tasks one does away from public view that we build up our own faith in ourselves and it is these same small tasks that have been taken away from this generation.

Shining shoes? – Velcro!
Tying your shoe laces – More Velcro!
Cutting the lawn? – no more lawns – robot lawn mowers – or paid help.
Washing the dishes? Dishwashers!
Vacuuming – Roomba!
Getting the mail (what’s mail? Oh! That stuff before texting!)
Spelling (duh … spellcheck!)
Multiplication tables (do calculators have those?)
Walking the dog (did kids ever really walk the dog?)
Homework (isn’t that what tutors are for?)

I won’t go on. It’s too depressing. 🙁

What daily tasks will inspire young people to learn self-discipline, build character and belief in oneself?

Since the “old ones” are gone. They need to be replaced with new ones. (Not that new):
1: Self-reflection.
2. Exercise.
3. Creativity
4. Generativity.

I will elaborate on these in chapter one.

Although I say that each person has the potential for success and that I have found my system to be highly effective, it does not mean that I work with every person who comes to interview with me or that they all stay the course and succeed using the World Wide Youth Mentoring system.

When parents seek my help for a troubled teen or young adult, they often find me through one of my articles at Huffington Post, or from our sister website for Mentoring Young Adults.

Once we have determined that this system could be a good fit for a potential client (ages 12 to 28) we then begin the first 8 sessions which will determine if the program truly works for the new client. If you are trained in our system, you will eventually reach my success ration, of those I accept on the sixth session of 95%!

What does this mean for the young adults?

It means that each one has in them the seeds for success and the challenge is to find the proper system for that particular person. Often, when someone I have worked with has risen above their addictions and gone back to school and succeeded well (very often for the first time) I will get referrals from friends. The chance of my particular system being right for that friend at that particular time is 50/50. The determining factor is; is this person ready?

Now, let’s talk about you. What you need to bring to this system and how you can determine when your “client” is ready for your mentoring.

Who knows your child better than their parents? They do. They may not know it or share all of it with them but a parent’s understanding of their child is based on history. More than likely, theirs is about right now and tomorrow. The past is often the same place where broken toys reside. Rich and meaningful at one time, but now it is mainly of use for stubbing toes and tripping us up.

It is in the future and the now that we must begin the Hero’s Journey of Success with our clients.

Stay tuned for part two!

Are you interested in becoming a Professional Mentor for Young Adults? Check out our next opening for 1st Degree Mentorship at Ken Rabow’s Mentors Professional Workshop by clicking here

Mentor’s Workbook – Intro #2 – The Entitlement / Internet Generation?

Are we living in the era of the Entitlement Generation or is this the challenge of being the Internet Generation?

It is in the future and the present that one must be re-introduced to one’s children. They are new people at every stage of development yet we still see them on the potty.

How do we learn to see them anew and more importantly; how does the Internet Generation learn to see themselves through new eyes?

The ideal way is through a Professional Mentor who sees them for who they are now and who they could become, free of judgment and free of external limitations. That is the key to Mentoring Teens and Young Adults towards success.

To find that successful future, we must first look at what makes inhabitants of the Internet (a land I call WebFredonia) different. People born before 1980 are not born of the land of the Internet. We are first or second generation WebFredonian immigrants. Those born of the Internet world are wired differently.

We should begin by asking ourselves: “Are they really different?” Didn’t every generation talk about how much better they were to their elders then the present generation (it’s funny how much better we behaved as kids through the foggy haze of memory) and is it not a time-honored complaint?

It is the eternal complaint about each generation. Having said that, there are reasons why the Internet Generations (IG) are truly different than most of those that preceded them. I say most because the Internet Generation has some common links with the generations that fought in the two “great wars” as well as a few very big differences.

Those two great generations saw their entire world change in the span of a few short years. All the things they knew for certain, all the truths they took as being the way of the world were changed forever and you really couldn’t keep ‘em down on the farm after that.

Like those two generations, today’s generation of teens and young adults experience world-shaking changes on a regular basis in everything they know: how they consume their music, from physical cd’s to proprietary mp3’s on their computer to the cloud; How they communicate; from home phones, to cell phones, to emails, to texting, to face-booking; how the world works – constant advances in computing guarantee that many “indispensable” jobs of middle and upper middle management will soon be gone alongside the rapidly disappearing industrial and transportation jobs.

Children today are virtually accosted by people gaining instant world-wide fame for the bizarre to the infamous. How can they ever compete with these one-second stars in making their mark?

Reality television’s ravenous appetite for championing people who crave their 24 episodes of world fame at any cost seems never-ending.

When every voice is modified and every picture photo-shopped to create perfection how can the Internet Generations compete? What should they aspire to?

Perfectionism is causing many kids to not bother trying.

If every desire is catered to by every means, what benefit is there to “striking out on your own”?

Better to act entitled than to try for small personal successes… and there you have it. The IG mindset.

Then there is the Internet knowledge base. The Internet Generation has these wide swaths of knowledge without depth, for the most part. This makes their ability to take one choice, when there are so many possibilities, almost impossible

So what is the future to look forward to?

The future is not in the vertical thought process, nor the linear assembly line, it is in the lateral thinking of the age of ideas.

The future belongs to this generation and it is through ideas based on their personal goals and beliefs, nourished by a daily routine of personal development that this will become the greatest generation ever.

I believe this to be true because I see it happening in the young adults I mentor. People who come to me stuck. Unable to succeed, who, with a few simple steps towards self-actualization, towards “piercing the target” to start at anything and just experience the unfolding of craft.. they take to it like a duck to water and soar.

Now we must look at the raw deal parents in this generation have been given and how to give them back their rightful place as the shapers of this great generation: Stay tuned for part 3!

Are you interested in becoming a Professional Mentor for Young Adults? Check out our next opening for 1st Degree Mentorship at Ken Rabow’s Mentors Professional Workshop by clicking here

Are Millennials Are Greatest Hope or Our Biggest Problem?

These days I am being asked by the “C’s” in organizations to give workshops on how to bring Millennials into big business and I really enjoy the experience of sharing that knowledge. The most frequent question I get is:

“Is it worth trying to “fix” our Millennial “problem” or should we just skip the “pain-in-the-ass generation” and wait for the next one coming up? (They seem easier to deal with)”.

Before I answer that question, let me tell you how I know what I know about Millennials:
I spend over 1,000 hours a year one-on-one life coaching young adults, who have given up talking to Boomers about why they are having problems because they feel they are never truly heard.

I help these Millennials find their personal power and get them to excel in whatever field they set their hearts to. What I discover is that once they are no longer focused on the label foisted upon them and start to build up simple small successes… they have greatness within them.

I have no doubt that they will be leaders in their fields one day soon and change a great deal of how business is done. Also, as of 2015, Millennials have overtaken Boomers as the biggest demographic ever!

To learn how and why we should mentor Millennials in the workforce, let’s look at an unusual source:

Finding the right people that we seek in the new paradigm:

In an article entitled: “Why doesn’t anybody copy Apple?” Asymco’s Haroce Dediu said the following:

“It’s complex, it’s subtle, it defies explanation but it’s not magic. It’s a process that requires a degree of faith and fortitude. It’s collecting but ignoring data and trusting judgment when data tells you to move in a different direction. It’s a lot of willful rejection of conventional wisdom. It’s asymmetric approaches to competition. It’s art as much as science. And most of all, it’s a lot of mind-numbing polishing while trusting that only by doing great work is survival even possible.”

That is also the definition of the Millennials that we meet.

Here are some questions every business should ask themselves today: 

1) In a changing world, where desktop computing and marketing will be meeting the same fate as the Pogo stick, Fax machines, and Blackberrys, how can your company evolve while embracing Millennials, the first generation who experience life through social media on handhelds. A new generation who really want to impact their work environment in a profound way but require a whole new way to mentor them.

2) When do you have to shift to a new mindset before this generation becomes the new demographic of change makers in the next seven years?

3) What means can you employ to stay relevant when all of what is perceived of as the client landscape is changing faster than a rabbit at a fox convention.

Here are three simple things you can do to embrace, empower and mentor Millennials:

1) Open, honest and direct communication: Millennials in the workforce want to know how the tasks they are undertaking will make a difference in the overall goals of the place they emotionally invest in. The more clarity they have on an ongoing basis, the easier it will be for them to embrace the reason your company is/will be great.

2) Lead by inspiration: A key incentive for Millennials is happiness; down the list is financial gain. Help them be in an inspiring and enthusiastic work environment and make sure that the work is based on tasks and goals not a time-clock.

3) Opportunities for growth: Millennials want to grow as professionals and as people. Creating opportunities to learn and evolve are vital to attracting, retaining and engaging Millennials. Mentoring programs can help the entire culture grow your business and industry by letting the unconventional meet a new business landscape.

There you have it.

A beginning for a new way to look at one of the greatest generations since the great war. Embrace them! Dialogue with them and whenever possible, avoid commanding them… this is not <em>that </em>generation. This is the generation of asymmetry.
Interested in mentoring Millennials? Check out more on this site.

Know a Millennial in need of mentoring? Click here

Class 01 – Mentoring the Mentor for Young Adults

This is the first class (after the weekend intensive) of Mentors Professional Workshop – learning to mentor teens, young adults and their families.

And what do you think I would want to start with on the grand journey?

You!

You must lead by example. That example is not “look at me! I’m doing the same crap you are!!”. No, we lead by living it but not preaching about it. Just understanding from our own challenges how to appreciate our client’s challenges.

As mentors, our duty is to grow as human beings. To take on our own personal and creative challenges and live by the guidelines we are setting for our clients.

To that end, we must add the following things in our lives.
I have spoken before about the times I would do Reiki, Therapeutic Touch and other healing modalities to people when I lived in Montreal.

Two things become clear that will help those who wish to Mentor Young Adults towards success in all aspects of their lives.

1) No outside force heals a person. It is the person’s choices and belief system that allows for the healing.

2) You can only truly grow when you add three things into your daily routine:

Something Reflective; Something Creative and Something Physical

  1. Reflective
    Meditation etc.,
    Prayer
    Success Recap

  2. Creative (performance)
    coding drawing writing
    i.e. Making something
    Using your canvas

  3. Physical (walking)
    Muscle based exercise – Weights; Tai Chi; resistance training; etc.,

    Here are some more things I recommend that you incorporate into your life to prepare you to become a truly great life coach for young adults:

  4. Meditation exercises (live with Ken ☺)
    General 10 min Visualization
    Grounding
    Sleep/Wake routine
    Thankfulness routine

  5. Take your own Mentor classes when you can.
    Ask your fellow MIT’s to switch 30 min sessions – 1 with you as Mentor (real work) – next with you as Mentee.Do real work. First time do GCS – then start a daily routine the following week – share how this goes at your next class. Write down questions.

  6. Also, keep notes to ask Ken

  7. Volunteer Interim Mentee – someone you will work on in your second month of mentor classes.

Choosing a VIM.
Using the VIM form to sign.
Remember: You need your police report for mentoring outside of fellow MIT’s

A Mentor is: Calm, relaxed, prepared, confident and always looking for Gold in his clients.